A practical guide to starting over

Starting over, one practical step at a time.

Therapists who work with people going through divorce, separation or the end of a long relationship. Find someone to talk things through with while you sort out what comes next.

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Just separated

The first weeks and months

Two homes, patchy sleep and a hundred decisions at once. Some people want to talk about the shock of it; others mostly need help carrying the stress of the practical side while everything is being sorted out.

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Co-parenting

Raising children across two homes

Handovers, new routines and conversations with someone you no longer live with. Talking it through can help you keep the focus on your children while you look after yourself as well.

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After a long marriage

When a long chapter closes

After decades together, a separation can change your home, your friendships and the plans you had for later life. There is room to grieve what has ended and to think about what you want next.

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Rebuilding confidence

Getting to know yourself again

Self-doubt, guilt, or worry about trusting someone new. Many people use this time to understand their own patterns and to feel steady on their own before anything else.

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If home does not feel safe

If you are in danger, or someone is hurting, threatening or controlling you, contact emergency services or a domestic-abuse helpline first. The numbers are at the foot of this page. A therapist can be part of your support later on, alongside them.

A therapist is not there to decide who was right. The time is yours, to work out what you need next.

Good to know before you start

It is not legal or money advice: Online talk therapy is not legal, financial or custody advice. For those questions, a lawyer, mediator or financial adviser is the right person, and a therapist can help you cope with the process.
Nobody takes sides: This directory does not judge who ended things or why, and the therapists listed are not there to referee.
No promised outcome: No therapist can promise that a relationship will be saved, ended well or settled quickly. Therapy can help you think those questions through for yourself.
You do not need to be in crisis: Plenty of people talk to someone simply because a big change is easier with company.